Happy New Year! 2022

Hello all, it’s been a while. I hope the new year find you well.

I’ve run across a forum (hat tip to The Client’s Side) on Reddit for therapy abuse.
While not a big fan of Reddit and the format the stories are there and need to be heard:


Personal Health Information

I had an idea regarding our PHI and therapists. First a few points/observations.
Many of us have already voiced our concerns over filing a complaint against a therapist because of the mental health patient vs “professional expert” handicap since there is no witness in the room it becomes a he said-she said scenario.

Well, not quite, there is a witness. A biased witness. The things the therapist puts down in our PHI. This silent witness further enhances our handicap as the therapist can put in or leave out (or ad) whatever he/she wishes. For example, “Writer informed client of XYZ” when in fact it never happened.

Now, I don’t know about the law in various states, but here in California we have what’s called “California Patient Access to Health Records Act” which allows us to request copies of our medical records and the provider has a specific amount of time thereafter to provide the copies. I asked and received mine, I’ve seen various comments from others online that they have as well, but I’ve also seen a couple of comments where the provider denied the request. You’ll just have to check your state law.

Now, in my case my PHI was in fact doctored/altered to support the claims of the therapist. I see other posts online where others have had the same or similar observations about their PHI when they received it, client did or said XYZ, when the client is adamant about it not happening/not saying any such thing.

I suggest a solution that’s reasonable, low cost, and can avoid the potential of this abuse or even the accusation of abuse that may have not happened. I don’t expect it to actually get a pulse though as I’ve seen enough to know this field coddles and protects itself.

My idea is 1) All States (or your country), adapt a patient PHI access law similar to California’s. 2) Require that the therapist provide a copy of the previous visit’s PHI to the client upon the next session. This way any discrepancies in fact and opinion can be dealt with while there is a current client/therapist relation and eliminates any reasonable possibility of document altering/doctoring somewhere down the line. The only weak link could be the PHI for the final session, but all previous reports will safely be on record. The only cost would be a moment to print the document and the paper it’s printed on. 3) Allow an ‘opt out’ option for patients that do not wish to have this information.

Now, the naysayers, (probably on the therapeutic side), might say that the client should not see what is written about them, the knowledge could be damaging. But I say bunk, we are adults trying to seek help. As adults we have the right to our diagnosis, it’s what you’d expect as a cancer patient, no? And since this is “therapy” why would harmful stuff be written about us in the first place? I’m not paying people to say cruel things, I get that for free in the outside world.

Anyway, this too turned into a long rant, but I hope I made sense. In hindsight it’s something I would have liked to see to not only keep my therapist honest, but to get an idea of my own progress or lack thereof in her eyes.


April 2nd Status

Hey everyone! Happy April! I haven’t done a lot here lately, but I have added some great links to the link page including one to a forum that I came across and do recommend, The Client Side, it deals with therapy reality and bad therapy. I wished I came across this forum before I ever started therapy, it would have saved me a lot of grief.

Also, I just posted some thoughts I had regarding Personal Health Information and I feel they are worth repeating here so I will follow this post with another containing that writing.

Thanks as always for reading!



This is a good read, the author is well versed and makes great observations and points.

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In blogs and book reviews, I see reference by therapy professionals to the “disgruntled ex-client.”  I assume this label is pejorative and the classification perhaps is to warn therapists to create a strong filter when one hovers nearby.

So here’s my warning label: I’m a disgruntled ex-client.  My therapy mostly was harmful.   Before I’m tuned out, I hope some therapists may consider listening as I speak my piece, so they might find fewer like me at large.

I entered therapy hoping to broaden my social life and to confirm my suspicion that my typical family—wasn’t.  I never was in crisis.  My past persona was far too obliging and obeisant to authority, but not unlike a significant population percentage.  Pre-therapy I had friends, a job, occasional dates and was reasonably cheerful.  My total tally in treatment (I hate that word) was just under three years with different clinicians in different formats.

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“Our Stories” Page Published

Okay, I’ve got the system I’m using for sharing stories in place and I’m pretty sure the bugs are worked out.
Right now I got my story there and a few from the web. I’ll post more later and hopefully your story if you feel compelled to share it. You can access the page via the link at the top in the menu and I’ll also link it below.
Thanks as always for reading!

Our Stories

Site Upgrades

Hey all, it was cold and rainy out today so I figured it’d be a good time to learn the ins and outs of WordPress and how the editor interface functions. I have a good sized headache now, but also a fair understanding of what I am now doing.

Tweaked the site a little and changed to a theme that’s more customizable then the one I had, I think it looks pretty good now. Not looking for anything flashy, just functional and easy to use for everyone. I have the Stories page ready to publish, just need some submissions at this point.

I also found that WordPress also has reasonable prices on domain registration so I went ahead and registered hurtbytherapy.com so now it’ll take you to this site and that’ll make it easier to share and hopefully find.

That’s it for now, thanks as always for stopping by!


Just Saying Hi

You may have noticed that I posted my story, I did not get that long essay done in one sitting, it took several hours over two days. And as I mentioned in it, there will be a part two regarding the aftermath. But I got the main story out, and now I’ll take a break, writing all of that took a lot of energy, plus stirred up some emotions as I relived that mess.

I do hope this site gives victims a place to tell their stories and maybe in doing so get some of the pressure off their shoulders. I’ve done a LOT of online research since this happened in regards to bad therapists and bad terminations and mostly I found articles that were giving aid and comfort to the therapist and excusing a lot of their bad behaviors.

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Abandoned, My Story

Okay, I’m going to begin with my story now, this will be long and I don’t know if I’ll get it done in one sitting.
I’m thinking later I can copy it from the blog here to a story page and if anyone has an experience they’d like to share they can put it in the comments below and I can copy it over to the page as well.

I’m in my mid-40’s, suffered with anxieties and depression nearly my whole life, but starting young I buried the problems inside me, put the fake smile on my face, and plowed my way through life. A couple of years ago was a breaking point for me, I no longer had the stamina and strength of youth so dealing with my mental health and the stress of a high position at work was no longer viable. I left my position of over twenty years.

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